Dances with Wolves

January 11, 2019 // by Paula Bohland

In my experience, a few weeks after setting big goals can get tricky. If you set out and inspired yourself to make a change such as saving more money, losing weight, finding financial freedom, becoming happier or any other goals that requires behavior change it may be getting harder.

Behavior change takes real intentionality and the need to work from a system of reminding yourself of the “why” behind your goal.  It takes effort and sometimes it doesn’t come fast. It also takes faith and compassion with yourself as you keep trying and striving.  

Yesterday I was coaching someone who feels she is stumbling with her desired goals. She asked me to tell her “one thing” that she can do or remember when she felt overwhelmed or like giving up and giving in.  After some thought I told her the one thing I would advise is to “go small”. Think of one small thing to do right now  that when done will be like pushing the first domino and starting a chain reaction.  Even if that one small thing is hanging in there for a little longer and having faith in the process and yourself, it starts the chain reaction.

So, I am here to cheer for you and also offer a little insight from a Native American Parable…

One evening an elder Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us. One is fear. It carries anxiety, self self- doubt, concern, indecision, uncertainty, hesitation and inaction. The other is faith. It brings calm, conviction, confidence, enthusiasm, decisiveness, enthusiasm and action”. The grandson thought about this for a moment and then asked, “Which wolf wins?”.  The old Cherokee replied, “The one you feed”.

Cheering for you!
Paula Bohland, Lead Success Coach

Paula Bohland

Paula Bohland, MSW is an award winning motivational speaker, author, blogger, consultant, and coach who specializes in personal and business development.



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